Wednesday, November 07, 2007

Why have we lost all common sense?

In an effort to make everything balanced, school administrators seem to have given up all their common sense on how to discriminate between real problems and fake problems. Now they're giving middle school girls detention for hugging a friend good bye.
Two hugs equals two days of detention for 13-year-old Megan Coulter.

The eighth-grader was punished for violating a school policy banning public displays of affection when she hugged two friends Friday.
I bet I know exactly what has happened. The administrators want to make sure that there aren't any inappropriate and overtly sexual behavior in the school. But they don't want to have to adjudicate between two kids who say that they're just friends. They don't want to get involved in barring such behavior just between two kids of the opposite sex because who knows what pairings you might have in school these days. So rather than leaving the decision of whether a hug was sexual or friendly, they just have a blanket ban and friendly 8th graders get detention.

Adults need to stop giving in to such artificial equivalences and stand up to the kids. Ban sexual behavior and start exercising your judgment of what is and isn't sexual. If the kids whine and try to pretend that they're just being friendly, let them know that that isn't what it appeared to be to an adult and the discussion is now over. Stop surrendering common sense in the interest of having one rule fitting all circumstances. A butter knife is not a weapon. And a friendly hug to a girlfriend is not inappropriate student contact.